As many of you know, my family and I are expecting baby number three in just a few short weeks. As I take some time off from work and blogging to spend time with my family both before and after my new son’s birth, I am thrilled to share with you some amazing posts written by some very talented bloggers. So please sit back, relax and enjoy this guest post and leave a comment letting us know what you think! Today I am excited to haveÂ Leslie Lindsay, RN BSNÂ Author of SPEAKING OF APRAXIA: A Parentâ€™s Guide to Childhood Apraxia of Speech here with us to share some insights on being a parent of a child with CAS.Â
When I look back over the years of our apraxia journey, I am reminded of the simple truths I wish I had known long ago, wholesome happy moments that really have little to do with apraxia and more to do with being a mother, a child, and a family.Â Here goes:
- A child is a child no matter what.Â I may have wished for a perfect child who was above average in all their pursuits, but what fun is that?Â Perfection has its downsides; Iâ€™d rather a child full of whim and vigor, a child who needs to overcome obstacles to understand that not everything is easy-peasy achievable in this life.
- I am a mother first and an advocate second.Â It may seem as if thereâ€™s little differentiation between the two, but I like to think that first I became a mother; providing snuggles and love, safety, food, shelter and clothing. Â And then I became an advocate, seeking ways to help my child be the best she can be in terms of her speech development.
- As a family unit, we work together.Â Apraxia is a family affair.Â We learn, we help, and we interpret together.Â Sure, it can take its toll on us just like everything but itâ€™s important that we all pull together to help our Team Apraxia.
- Extended family is important, too. Donâ€™t forget grandma and grandpa.Â Educating them about apraxia and how it affects your family is key, no matter how far or close you are in proximity.Â Extended family can provide a wealth of supportâ€”emotionally, physically, financially, and practically.Â Perhaps grandparents can assist with getting your child to and from speech therapyâ€¦maybe they have stories to share of past generations with speech troubles.Â Try educating them on apraxia and having them work with your child to practice their sounds.Â Maybe you just need to bend their ear.
- Speech Apraxia is serious, but itâ€™s not the end of the world. When I first heard the term â€˜apraxia,â€™ I didnâ€™t know what to think.Â Was this a big deal, a little deal, or somewhere in the middle?Â Was it like stuttering or a lisp?Â I was really in the dark.Â Had my diagnosing SLP told me, â€œthis is serious, but we can work with your daughter to make it right,â€ I may not have freaked out.
- Take what you find about CAS (Childhood Apraxia of Speech) on the Internet with a grain of salt.Â That, said there are a lot of great resources on the Internetâ€¦and some not-so-good resources.Â Be critical.Â Donâ€™t assume that just because you read it on the Internet, itâ€™s the be-all-end all.Â Ask questions, look at multiple sources, go to the main source.Â And beware of well-known, reputable websites as well.Â When I hopped on for the first time, I was overwhelmed and panicked.Â Would my child ever be able to talk?Â Would she ever be considered â€œnormal?â€Â I catastrophized, and wished I hadnâ€™t.
- Itâ€™s okay to get your child involved in activities with other kids.Â Encouraged, even!!Â At times you may be reluctant to keep your child away from social experiences in which he is required to speak (birthday parties without you, community education, preschool, library programs, sports, dance). While it may seem like you are being an advocate for your kiddo, it may actually hinder his ability to be in control of his own apraxia.Â It teaches self-monitoring, independence, and self-actualization. Equip your child with a few functional phrases beforehand, though (Eg.,â€œWait!â€ â€œMy name is ___,â€Â â€œHi,â€Â â€œWant to play?â€Â â€œOkay!â€ If your child is more nonverbal than that, teach appropriate body language like nodding or shaking her head, smiles, waves.)
- Itâ€™s okay to ask for help. When you feel stuck, reach out.Â You may find that a group, your childâ€™s SLP, or special needs teacher can help you identify ways to make things easier and better for you, your child, and your family.Â A tutor, babysitter, student (speech pathology, special/education, nursing, or retired SLP) can be a life-saver when it comes to practicing speech work, or just respite care.Â It takes a village to raise a child!
- If you have other children, remember they need you, too.Â If you need to bring other children along to the speech waiting room, bring something fun the two (or three) of you can do together while you wait.Â Coloring books, reading, a small craft, puzzles, a quiet toy; or consider a quick dash to the playground or ice cream.Â You are just providing different needs for different children.
- Childhood Apraxia of Speech Does Get Better! Not all kids will gain speech growth in the same manner, but they do get better.Â This is a wonderful thing!Â Thereâ€™s a reason itâ€™s called â€˜childhoodâ€™â€”the duration of CAS is typically birth thru 8 years.Â It could be a little less or a little more, depending on your childâ€™s personality, determination/motivation, overall intelligence, access to therapy, home practice, and co-occuring disorders like AD/HD, autism, Downâ€™s syndrome, anxiety, etc.Â Sure, your child may slip up from time to time on challenging words, when they are tired or stressed, or learning a new set of vocabulary (math terms, history, science), but overall your childâ€™s speech should be on-par with peers around age 8.
Most of all, Iâ€™ve learned that love and time really can â€œcureâ€ a lot of things.Â Thanks to Katie and Playing with Words 365 for having meâ€”just honored!!Â
Leslie Lindsay is a former Mayo Clinic Child/Adolescent Psychiatric RN and a mother of a daughter with CAS.Â She is also the author of the Readerâ€™s Choice Finalist & ForeWord Review Book of the Year Finalist Â SPEAKING OF APRAXIA (Woodbine House, 2012).Â She lives in Chicagoland with her family where she is busy working on her next book in the womenâ€™s fiction genre. Â You can follow long on Facebook, Twitter, and on her Website/Blog. Speaking Of Apraxia is available atÂ Amazon, Barnes & Noble (in-store and on-line) and Woodbine House