How to Help Your Child Talk: Slow Down and Be Present

Welcome to my How to Help Your Child Talk series. These posts are intended to give you simple tips to help you work with your child so YOU can be your child’s best “speech therapist.” You may want to try out a new tip/strategy for a week or so and then when you feel like you’ve “got it”  and it comes more naturally, move on to a new tip and incorporate that into your day for another week or two. For a list of  all my tips, go HEREThis post contains affiliate links to Amazon for your convenience. 

Slow Down and Be Present

Slow Down

I talk about this in my popular guest post at Toddler Approved 5 Tips to Help Your Child Learn Language and Communicate. It is my very first tip to all parents. It may seem obvious and simple, but it isn’t always as easy at it sounds.

Slow Down

As I talked about in that post, I mean this in a few ways.

Children learn language in everyday moments. Everyday routines. Diaper changes, bath time, meal time…these are all so routine yet some of the best times to slow down and talk to your child. These are the moments he is learning the most. Make sure to try to slow down when you can and really talk to your little one during those routines that you often don’t even think about.

Example: During bath time, rather than moving quickly through the routine of bathing and getting your child out, slow down and talk about the steps you are taking in the bath. Talk about how the water is warm. Talk about the bubbles. Talk about the shampoo and why we use it. Talk about the way the soap smells. Talk about the toys in the bathtub. About how the duckies float. How the cup is empty and now it is full. Slow down and talk about everything! This is when your child is learning the most about his world. In these everyday moments. 

Also, slow down your own speech. This is especially important if your toddler is struggling with speech and language development. I have met many a parents who bring their child to me for an assessment and they are speaking to me at such a fast rate that I have a hard time keeping up. Though some of this is due to being concerned for their child and nervous about the evaluation, more often than not they admit to me that they often speak very quickly. In this fast paced world full of cell phones, computers, “on demand” TV and such, we are all moving so fast and talking so fast some little ones have a hard time keeping up. So…slow down your pace in life and slow down your speech if you find yourself talking a mile a minute all the time.

Be Present

This is a friendly reminder that we need to put down our phones, iPads, and computers and be 100% present with our children.  I say WE because I have to remind myself of this all the time. I am not talking about that day you took your kids to the park and browsed Facebook while they played because it was the only “you” time you had in a week. That is OK! We all need a break sometimes. As long as it is the exception and not the rule….we are good to go. I’m not asking you  to be 100% present 100% of the time, but rather pick times during the day to be 100% present. The more the better.  I am guilty of spending too much time on electronic devices. But in order to make a difference in our children’s lives, we need to be present.  100% during quality interactions with our children throughout the day.

Need Some Inspiration?

I know that when I am trying to make changes in my life, I find reading about others experiences on my same path inspiring and motivating. Here are a few of my favorite posts about slowing down life and being present with our children. I hope they provide you with some motivation and confidence that you TOO can make some small changes to be more present. (Believe me…I need to work on this too! So we can do it together!) How to Miss a Childhood is a fantastic post by Hands Free Mama. Like I said above…it’s ok to have moments where you’re on the phone or the computer. But remember that to be truly present, we must put it all down sometimes and JUST be with our children.

I love this post by Kristina from Toddler Approved. I love how honest she is about feeling overwhelmed and feeling like she needs a whole week just to “catch up” on life.  I think we can all relate. She shares her tips on slowing down.

slow down and be present post


Here is a great post with over 30 ways to connect to your toddler from Connecting Family and Seoul. I LOVE these!

30 Ways to Connect with Your Toddler

I also have these two posts that I have written, on here on this blog, and one as a guest post on The Educators Spin on It. Click the images below to check them out and I hope they inspire you and get you thinking!


sometimes you need to say yes


Now, I’m asking YOU to try this. Try slowing down a normally rushed daily routine and really be present. Talk to your child. Listen to your child. Then come back and tell me how it went! For a list of  all my other tips, go HERE.

Looking for more ways to help with your child’s speech and language development? ? I highly recommend these two books: My Toddler Talks: Strategies and Activities to Promote Your Child’s Language Development by fellow SLP and friend Kim Scanlon and It Takes Two To Talk: A Practical Guide For Parents of Children With Language Delays from The Hanen Centre.

DISCLAIMER: My tips are for informational purposes only and do NOT replace the interventions of a licensed and certified speech-language pathologist. Please read my full disclaimer and terms of use page for more information. 


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  1. Alicia says

    I have lived by these steps with my children (7,2 & 8mnths) and it is amazing how much it helps them to learn. My 2yo talks so well people often thinks that she is 4… Thank you :)