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Strategies to Help Your Child Talk: Modeling and Requiring Language

November 15, 2011 by Katie Filed Under: How to Help Your Child Talk 2 Comments

Today, some more strategies to help your child to talk!

Model the language you want him to use: This may seem like a no brainer, but modeling the language you want your child to use doesn’t always come naturally (and remember, that’s ok!) I remember when my daughter was a toddler and she would walk up to me and put her arms up while grunting. Yes, she obviously was communicating to me that she wanted up. However, is this how I wanted her to communicate this to me? Not really, I wanted her to say “up” and then eventually “up please” and then at some point “Can you pick me up please?” But how would my daughter know to use the word “up” rather than just gesturing and grunting? I had to model it for her.

So, for a couple weeks every time she did her arms-up-and-grunt I would look down at her and say “You want up? UP. UP. UP” and then I would pick her up. This went on for a while until one day she attempted to say up! When she said the “uuuu” rather than her grunt I got really excited, repeated “Yes, UP UP UP!” and picked her right up! I prasied and praised her and continued to model until one day she just started saying it all by herself. My son is 10 months old and he has started the arms-up-while-grunting so I have already started to model “UP UP UP” before I pick him up. I do not expect him to say it yet, but soon he will because I am modeling it often.

PRAISE, PRAISE, PRAISE!! Once your child starts to attempt to say the words you are modeling for him, it is time to PRAISE him for his efforts! Not only do you want to give him the item he is wanting immediately to reinforce this behavior, you also want to praise him like crazy! Use big smiles, wide eyes, high pitched voice and say “Yes! UP! You said up! GREAT JOB!” We want to praise his attempts even if they are not perfect. As you probably know, children do not start talking like adults with all the sounds used correctly. If the child is attempting the word, even if its not perfect, that’s ok! Praise, praise, praise and continue to model the correct production of the words.

Require your child to use language to communicate: This is an area that I often have to counsel parents about with children who have language delays. Some children are very good at getting what they want using nonverbal communication. And many parents are very good at knowing what their child wants. Therefore, the child is getting what he/she wants without having to use language to get it.(This happened with me as a child actually, I didn’t talk much until I was three and went into preschool!)

Once you are modeling the language for your child and he is starting to get the idea and using words, you then need to require your child to use the language to get what he wants. For example, let’s say your child has learned to say “up” like in my example above. Start requiring him to use it most times he wants up.  Does your child want his sippy cup of milk? MODEL MODEL MODEL the word milk and once he starts to try using the word (like maybe a mmmmmmm sound) PRAISE him and then start requiring that he uses this approximation of Milk (the mmmm) most times he wants his milk.

What other strategies can I use to help my child’s language development? Check out these posts in my Strategies Series:

Parallel and Self Talk

Using Expansions and Extensions

Commenting and Asking Questions

Modeling and Asking Questions

Setting up The Environment for Communication

Cheers!

Please remember that this information is for educational purposes only. If you feel your child has delays in his/her communication skills, please speak to your pediatrician or locate a speech pathologist in your area for an assessment. Be sure to read the full TERMS OF USE on this site for more info. For tips on how to find an SLP in your area. read HERE.

About Katie

Katie is a licensed, credentialed and certified pediatric speech-language pathologist and mom to four (8, 6, 3 and 6 months). Her passion for educating, inspiring and empowering parents of children with all abilities led her to start her blog playing with words 365 where she shares information about speech & language development & intervention strategies, parenting, photography and a little about her family life too. Katie has been working in the field of speech pathology for 12 years and is certified in The Hanen Centre’s It Takes Two to Talk ® and Target Word ® programs and holds a certificate in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). In addition to blogging and being a mommy, Katie works part time in her small private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can follow her on Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter.

Comments

  1. Arianna says

    May 27, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    Hi there, thank you so much for all of these wonderful tips! I really appreciate that you include examples of things to say. I was just wondering, when you are modeling what a child is asking for and he doesn’t attempt to even make a similar sound but continues to point and grunt, do you still give it to him and model what he is asking for ?

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    • Katie says

      June 23, 2017 at 5:01 pm

      Hi Arianna- YES! give it to him! And keep modeling. 🙂

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