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How to Help Your Child Talk: Follow Your Child’s Lead

February 11, 2014 by Katie Filed Under: How to Help Your Child Talk 2 Comments

Welcome to my How to Help Your Child Talk series. These posts are intended to give you simple tips to help you work with your child so YOU can be your child’s best “speech therapist.” You may want to try out a new tip/strategy for a week or so and then when you feel like you’ve “got it”  and it comes more naturally, move on to a new tip and incorporate that into your day for another week or two. For a list of  all my tips, go HERE. This post contains affiliate links to Amazon for your convenience. 

Follow Your Child's Lead

It has been a while since the last installments of my How to Help Your Child Talk series, thanks to a busy few months with our new baby, the holidays, and, well, life in general. I’m super excited to get this back up and running and have several other installments planned!

If you are new to the series, be sure to check out the first three parts focussing on slowing down and being present, getting down at your child’s level, and listening with your eyes. Today, we talk about following your child’s lead.

What Does it Mean to Follow Your Child’s Lead?

It sounds pretty simple, but believe it or not this can be very difficult for some to TRULY follow their child’s lead. Following a child’s lead means that you are present, actively observing, and responding to your child’s interests within the activities they enjoy (like play) as within your daily activities and routines. If you have been reading along in this series, these should sound familiar.

Allowing Your Child to Lead

In order to allow your child to lead, you will be using the skills we have been talking about so far in this series including slowing down and being present and getting at your child’s eye level. A very important key to allowing your child to lead is to use those observations you have been making by listening with your eyes to determine what your child is truly interested in and then responding appropriately. (We will talk more about how to respond appropriately later).

That’s it! Figure out what your child is interested in and allow that interest to lead the interaction! But why can this be a difficult thing sometimes?  Here are several common mistakes that can inhibit your child’s ability to lead:

  • Not being truly present in the moment (being distracted): Staying connected with your children helps allow them to lead interactions
  • Trying to rush through everyday moments/routines: We are all busy these days, aren’t we? But what we sometimes forget is that it is within these everyday moments and routines that our children are learning about their world and these are the optimal opportunities to allow them to lead interactions and communicate!
  • Not being at your child’s eye level: We don’t always have to be at our child’s eye level but when we do it allows for a better connection with our children.
  • Listening only with your ears and not your eyes: This is a very common mistake. We need to be sure to listen with eyes, meaning we need to watch our children closely for their communication cues (nonverbal) and take the focus off the words.
  • Asking your child question after question, including “testing” them on their knowledge (i.e. What color is this? Is this a circle? Is the car red?): These types of interactions tend to shut down communication, rather than promote it. This is another common trap we as parents can get stuck in.
  • Telling your child what to play with/how to play with something: Remember, this is about your child’s interests, not what you want him to be interested in. This includes allowing him the freedom to play with toys in ways that are different than intended sometimes!
  • Ignoring your child’s interests and trying to change his/her focus:  If your child is looking at the flower, talk about the flower, not the airplane flying over your head.
  • Always doing everything for your child and not allowing them to make mistakes or request help: This is especially difficult when you have a young child with a speech and language delay. It is instinctual to want to try to help your child by getting them what you know they need or helping them when you know they need help, but sometimes we need to WAIT for them to try first! More on this in a future post.

What’s Next?

Now that we are learning how to follow our child’s lead, it is time to use that listening with the eyes skill again along with a little detective work to figure out what our little ones are trying to “say” so that we can learn to respond appropriately. That’s coming next!

Looking for more ways to help with your child’s speech and language development? I highly recommend these two books: My Toddler Talks: Strategies and Activities to Promote Your Child’s Language Development by fellow SLP and friend Kim Scanlon and It Takes Two To Talk: A Practical Guide For Parents of Children With Language Delays from The Hanen Centre.

DISCLAIMER: My tips are for informational purposes only and do NOT replace the interventions of a licensed and certified speech-language pathologist. Please read my full disclaimer and terms of use page for more information. 

About Katie

Katie is a licensed, credentialed and certified pediatric speech-language pathologist and mom to four (8, 6, 3 and 6 months). Her passion for educating, inspiring and empowering parents of children with all abilities led her to start her blog playing with words 365 where she shares information about speech & language development & intervention strategies, parenting, photography and a little about her family life too. Katie has been working in the field of speech pathology for 12 years and is certified in The Hanen Centre’s It Takes Two to Talk ® and Target Word ® programs and holds a certificate in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). In addition to blogging and being a mommy, Katie works part time in her small private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can follow her on Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter.

Comments

  1. Kristen Miller says

    February 11, 2014 at 9:14 pm

    Great post Katie !! Being a SLP myself I know this information is priceless for parents who have a child who is speech delayed; however, as a parent of a child without a speech delay and even though my kids are getting older at 11 and 8 it never fails to amaze me of how relevant this information is to actually getting my children to open up and communicate. The part of “getting down on their level” …..haha …not so much (my son is nearly at my level height wise!!)….I would just change have to change it to mean getting close within their space. What I’ve found is that these same strategies really work to open up the communication channels years beyond the developing speech stage. Whenever I find myself not feeling up to par with how I am relating to my children, I revert back to using these types of suggestions and everything seems to fall magically into place. Thanks for a great post !! Kristen

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    • Katie says

      February 12, 2014 at 10:09 am

      Hi Kristen, so so true! Following your child’s lead really should be a life long skill for all parents. When we really are present, connect, observe and listen we can truly “hear” our children, no matter their age! Thanks for pointing that out! 🙂

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